If you feel left out, it can make you feel very down and depressed. You might feel like no one understands you or that there’s something wrong with you because you’re not into the same things that your peers are. That’s okay.
You don’t have to be into all the things your friends or classmates are. You don’t have to go clubbing every weekend, or even like clubbing at all. That’s okay. You don’t have to like everything your friends like. You don’t have to pretend to, either.
All of these things are easier said than done, I know. The thing is, you’re great. You’re intelligent, interesting and beautiful. Some days you might feel the opposite of those things, and you might feel like you’ve nothing to give to other people.
Maybe you feel like an imposter, or like you’re living someone else’s life in a different body, or any variation of the above. You’re not. You’re living your own life, you’ve brought yourself to where you are now, and you are where you deserve to be.
The problem with confidence is that it’s not easy to have, and self-belief can be even more difficult if you feel slightly out of touch with the people around you. The reality is that you’re not alone.
Everyone has off days.
Everyone has days when they feel like they’re disconnected.
Everyone has days when they wish they were different, more successful, more interesting.
It may take time, but trust me when I say you’ll get there in the end. You can believe yourself worthwhile, if you just work on it, slowly, a few steps at a time. If you slowly start to reaffirm yourself, you’ll soon notice an improvement in your overall feelings of wellbeing. You may start to sleep better, or concentrate for longer periods of time.
Maybe you even take a bit more joy in your appearance, or in your hobbies. The difficulty is that you won’t feel better immediately. It will take time, and it will take effort and it will take perseverance.
You can love yourself, but it will take time. Trust me when I say it is worth the work – it might take years, but it will be worth it in the end.
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