Being in your first relationship is a huge milestone in life. Don’t worry, everyone reaches it at a different point. But it can be a lot; here’s some tips to try help you keep a level head.
Don’t Drop Your Friends
You swear that you won’t be “that girl”, but it happens easier than you would think. And hey, we get it. You’ve found someone who you really like and you want to spend all of your free time with them, but don’t forget about your friends. Boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, but you always need your friends. Make sure that you make time for your friends regularly and for the love of God don’t spend all of your time with them obsessing over your BF/GF.
Do Tell Your Parents
Yes, there is a certain level of mortification talking about your love life with your parental unit (is this an Irish thing?), but you need to be up-front and tell them. Yes, they might embarrass the hell out of you, but it’s important that they know about this big change in your life. By keeping it a secret they’ll worry and won’t be impressed. Also, nothing worse than been spotted with you new love someone by who’s going to rat you out and in Ireland this will always happen!
Don’t Splash It All Over Social Media
It’s tempting to want to tell everyone about your new lurve, but do a Beyoncé on it and keep it private. Although we all hope that we’ve found “the one” on the first try, the reality is that maybe you haven’t. And that’s ok. But if it doesn’t work out there’s nothing worse than having to change your Facebook status and remove all mention of them from your social media. Maybe putting up the date of your anniversary 2 days in isn’t a great ideas either?!
Do Be Yourself
Through nerves and anxiety it’s easy to turn yourself into someone else just by constantly saying yes and not wanting to disagree on anything, but don’t change your likes and dislikes for anyone. Don’t be afraid to say that you don’t really want to go to the cinema to see that movie or that you really like that band. Be yourself. They obviously liked you to begin with for who you are, so don’t go changin’.
Don’t Feel Pressured
Being in your first relationship is exciting and a big deal, but don’t feel that you ever have to do something that you don’t want to do at any point in the relationship. Sex is a big deal and it’s way too early to even be considering it at the very start of your first relationship. So, if it’s on your new partners mind, but you’re not ready, you have every right to say no. And if pressure starts to be applied, it’s time to make them an ex.
Have you any tips you wish you could tell you younger-self about being in your first relationship?
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