Things You Tell Yourself That You Should Stop Believing
The inner critic in our heads can often feed us some abominable lies. It can convince you that certain things are true when they really are not.
Here are some of the most common things your inner critic will tell you, things that you should simply stop believing. These falsehoods only cloud your mind and therefore it is best to get rid of them.
Mistakes are never a good thing
It can be very disheartening when things go horribly wrong on the first attempt . Sometimes you will want to give up or abandon whatever it is simply because it does not go your way. I get it. We all go through moments like these. However, choosing whether to persevere or not despite what others say is a true testament of your character. You should not look at mistakes as a failure but rather as an opportunity to learn. This mindset will motivate you to keep going while the opposite will discourage you from doing so.
Saying “No” is rude
Saying yes to everything will result in taking on far too much to the point where you are constantly exhausted. Sometimes we do not want to say no because we feel it is rude or the thought of potentially upsetting someone is terrifying. However, this is an important skill to develop. Standing up for yourself is a great habit to get into. We often place ourselves under a huge amount of pressure to try and complete everything physically possible. This is not healthy for your mental health and may even begin to affect your physical health if you let it go too far.
I’ll be happy when…
Telling yourself you will only be happy when I get a good job, get into college or finish secondary school is not true. There will always be another obstacle in front of you as soon as you have gotten over the last one. Life will throw a curveball you were not expecting just when you thought you were in the clear. A mindset where you are always waiting to be happy does not allow you to be content in the here and now. Instead of focusing on the journey, your mind is always looking ahead to the results. This tunnel vision could be blocking you from noticing other opportunities and happenings. Inevitably they will pass you by if you do not look to overcome this belief.
Looking after mental health is selfish
This is one of the ugliest lies that your inner critic will tell you. It is vital to remember that this is not true. Looking after your mental health is never selfish. In fact, it is the opposite. We all need time for ourselves whether that’s taking a mental health day every now and again or just taking the time to watch your favourite television programme. There is a stigma around mental health and it is our job to strive for better. Start with yourself to help contribute towards a better tomorrow.