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A few from the postbag.
Real questions. Real answers. Names and details changed to protect privacy — always.
My period arrived at school and I had absolutely nothing with me. I was so embarrassed I hid in the bathroom for an hour. How do I make sure this never happens again?
First — you survived it, and that counts for a lot. Here's the thing nobody tells you: almost every girl has a version of this story. The bathroom hide, the borrowing from a stranger, the creative improvising with toilet paper. It's a rite of passage nobody asked for. What you need is an emergency kit...
My best friend of six years has been leaving me out of things lately and I don't know if I'm being paranoid or if something is actually wrong. I'm too scared to bring it up in case it makes things worse.
You're not being paranoid — you're being perceptive, which is different. When something shifts in a friendship you've had for years, you notice. The question isn't whether something has changed. The question is whether you're brave enough to find out what...
I'm in fifth year and everyone around me seems to know exactly what they want to do after school. I genuinely have no idea and I'm starting to panic that something is wrong with me.
Nothing is wrong with you. Genuinely. The girls who "know exactly what they want" at 16 are, for the most part, either very lucky, or repeating something an adult said that sounded convincing. The Leaving Cert is not a deadline on your whole life...
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Every question that's been answered in the column — organised by category. Your question might already be in here. And if it is, you're definitely not alone.
Periods & Bodies
"My cramps are so bad I have to miss school. Is this normal or should I see a doctor?"
Friendships
"My group of friends all got closer over the summer and I feel like I missed something."
School & Study
"I failed my Christmas mocks and I'm convinced I'm going to fail the Leaving Cert."
Feelings
"I feel sad for no reason a lot of the time and I don't know how to explain it to anyone."
Family
"My parents are fighting all the time and I don't know if they're going to split up."
Periods & Bodies
"I've had my period for two years and I still can't figure out how to use a tampon."
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