Breakups are hard on their own, let alone dealing with a breakup during a global pandemic.
If you have recently gone through a break-up, don’t worry you are not alone! The pandemic has put a lot of strain on relationships and a lot of them have fallen apart. If you are currently going through a breakup, we are here to help!
Here is how to navigate a breakup during a pandemic…
Feel what it is you are feeling
The first and most important thing to know about dealing with a breakup during a pandemic is that you need to feel whatever it is you are feeling.
Breakups are painful and your first instinct will probably be to find a distraction as a way of avoiding the pain. But by doing this you aren’t getting rid of the pain you are just pushing it down and it will inevitably come back up sometime. So feel the pain you are going through, cry it out, take a few days off life, vent it all out to your best friend over the phone. The first step towards healing is letting it out.
An important thing to remember about this however, is you have to put a time limit on how long you do this for because it can be easy to get sucked in to the world of self-pity if you stay down for too long! Give yourself a few days to just let it all out and then put your best foot forward!
Make the best of the time alone
Once you have grieved the relationship it’s now time to take care of you and be a bit selfish for awhile. When you are in a relationship it is easy to get used to always having company, and often we can forget what it is like to spend time alone. When a relationship ends, usually the best thing to do is to distract ourselves by going out with our friends, joining a gym, keeping ourselves busy. In the middle of a pandemic however, that isn’t so easy.
While it may seem daunting the prospect of having to navigate this difficult time in your life alone, it actually can be a blessing in disguise. Having to spend time alone may be exactly what you need. It can be a great way of discovering that you can still have fun on your own.
By spending more time alone, you get to discover what it is you really enjoy. Hiking, cooking, reading etc. It helps you separate who you are on you are on your own vs who you are in a relationship. Then when a new relationship comes around it serves only as a bonus!
Talk to your friends
Talking to your friends is so important after you have gone through a breakup. While you may not be able to talk to meet up with them in person or see them in school you can always call them on the phone or even organise a hangout on zoom. Talking your friends can be a great way of venting your feelings or even just to get your mind off of the breakup for a bit!
Relationships come and go but your friends will always be there!
Don’t keep reminding yourself of them
This one is a lot easier said than done, however it is one of the best things you can do at the beginning of a breakup. Especially during a pandemic when you don’t have as many distractions it can be even more tempting to keep checking their socials or looking at old photos. However, the more you do this the harder it will be to move on.
Try focus on you and do things for you in your day that will serve as a distraction and help you forget about them for a little bit.
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