Dear Katie: I like a boy and he likes me, but I’m unsure how to make the first move

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Dear Katie,

I like a boy and he likes me, but I’m unsure how to make the first move.

Anonymous.

Dear Reader,

I remember this situation all too well, and it doesn’t get any easier the older you get either. Luckily, you have made it past the hardest part, you already know that you both like each other so you’re not wasting your time.

By making the first move, you’re showing him that you’re confident and know what you want, which I’ve no doubt will impress him. You’ll want to be subtle at first though, you don’t want to come on too strong and scare him off because boys are easily scared.

If you’re already good friends, use that to your advantage. If not, become friends first. Get to know him and find out what you have in common. This will make conversations seamless and free flowing and having common interests means there’s always something to chat about. You can also gradually test the waters and try flirting a little bit. If he likes you, there’s no doubt he’ll take the hint and reciprocate.

Of course, liking someone at the minute or even dating someone is tricky. You can’t see each other so texting is the only form of communicating. If things are going well and you are both on the same page, maybe suggest a coffee or cinema date for after quarantine. This will be a great step in the right direction and it will show that you’re still interested even through quarantine. It will also be something for you both to look forward to when this is all over.

If you feel like a date could be moving too quickly or too forward, suggest organising a group outing. This way you can still spend time together, but you’ll have the reassuring comfort and support of friends.

And if you are going on a date but things are going to plan, make sure a friend or family member knows where you are and have a readily available excuse to leave if you’re not feeling comfortable.

Love,

Katie x

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