Why You Should Write Yourself A Love Letter This Valentine’s Day
With Valentines Day just days away, it blends up an emotionally mixed smoothie with ingredients like gratitude, happiness, frustration and loneliness. What a mix…
Whether you think Valentines Day is superficial and cringe… or if you think it’s the most romantic and special day of the year, there is something we can all agree on…
That something being, how we just can’t avoid it.
From the minute we open up Instagram on February 14th, we can prepare for the flood. The flood of posts, captions and reels gushing over love and lust. Every second scroll on TikTok will show flowers, and every second snapchat story will show a well decorated love statement…
Whether we like it or not, Valentine’s Day…can’t really be ignored. So why not try a different approach this year?
Let’s be honest, Valentine’s Day for many people isn’t all flowers and showering’s of gifts, and it can be easy for this day to be a reminder of something that you don’t have.
But just because you don’t have something, doesn’t mean you need it. So why should we let this day be one that is associated with so much frustration and often, loneliness? Well…we shouldn’t.
Firstly, we know the reasons for why difficult feelings can fester around Valentine’s Day, it’s obvious. But what can we do to redirect those feelings? I mean, it’s a normal human way to feel grief, loneliness, and even sadness with such loud reminders of this day and what it means. But how can we make this easier?
Well, by making it all about you.
Buy yourself those chocolates…write down 10 things you are proud of…think about your goals and where you stand with them…book that holiday…cozy up for a movie binge of your favourites…
But truly, why not use this Valentine’s Day to show yourself some admiration and gratitude. You deserve to provide yourself with self-love before anything. It is a primal thing we often forget. To feel loved and appreciated by ourselves is a super-power we all need to realize that we have. Why not use the compassion, the understanding and the time you would give to a partner…and instead give it to yourself. It is so easy to over compensate, it is so easy to allow ourselves to slide into patterns of ‘people-pleasing’ or prioritizing others before ourselves. But that is not an act of self-love, and it is not a way you have to continue to live. So let this Valentine’s day be our reminder, that all the love and appreciation we need…truly comes from within us.
This Valentines Day, write yourself a love letter.