Unrealistic Things Porn Teaches Us About Sex
Many people use porn when masturbating, it’s a fact and there’s nothing to be ashamed about.
There’s nothing wrong with porn per se, but there are some serious issues that can arise from watching porn without clear critical thinking.
Here’s some unrealistic things porn teaches us about sex that really aren’t great…
Women don’t have body hair
Even a casual viewing of any porn site would leave you to believe that women are completely hairless creatures below the eyebrows.
PSA: having hair “down there” is totally normal!
You are completely entitled to do what you want with your body hair, but porn fetishises the notion that women are only attractive and desired if they have a waxed vagina. This is not true.
Nobody Wears Condoms
The porn industry has a lot of issues, to say the least. One of the biggest issues is the lack of protection used by its performers. Not only are the performers not being protected from STIs and HIV, it also dangerously gives the viewer the impression that condoms are not needed when having sex; they totally are!
Condoms act as a ‘barrier method” and stop the spread of STIs and HIV and are very effect in preventing pregnancy when used correctly. Please use condoms when having sex!
It’s ALL about male pleasure
Since most porn is funded, directed and designed by and for men (with exception of feminist porn), male pleasure takes precedence. A majority of videos end with the “money shot” of the man climaxing; because the female orgasm is just a side “benefit” of the sex act, if it occurs as all, right?
Female pleasure is just as important in sex as the man’s, but this is often left out of porn. It’s also worth saying that people in porn videos are being paid to act like they are enjoying what they are doing on screen.
Women Are Seen As Just “Things”
One of the really dangerous sides of porn, and particularly hardcore porn, is that it portrays women as just being objects there solely to pleasure men. Women are practically flung around the screen all at the whims of men and their needs and wants. It doesn’t look particularly pleasurable at all being contorted into weird positions while the guy goes like a jackhammer – I speak the truth and you know it. Porn can make it seem like women and just for there for the sexual gratification of men.
Some porn can also be incredibly violent and have a number of disturbing themes. There has been a number of links made to misogyny and gender based violence due to extreme porn addictions and how porn distorts peoples expectations of sexual interactions with others, particularly if they are exposed to these types of videos from a young age.
Respect is always so important when it comes to having sex. Porn can give people a false impression of what it’s like to have sex and more worryingly how they engage with their partner during sex.
This is why it’s always important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you like and don’t like when it comes to sex and what your boundaries are.
Sex Doesn’t Have A Plotline
A quick glance at a homepage on porn site leaves you bombarded with videos that revolve around plotlines. Although it can be fun to have fantasies, it’s not a realistic account of actual sex.
Which leads us to…
Porn Is Not Real Life
There’s so much that we could say about porn and how unrealistic it is, but the most important thing to say is, it’s not real life. For porn stars creating those videos is just a job, they are performers just like actors. They have a script of things to say, positions to have sex in, lighting experts, multiple cameramen…the works. And that’s before it hits the editing process. Therefore, it’s in no way an accrue portray of real sex.
Let’s be real, porn is made to get people off and it’s presented to us just for that goal. Real sex should be about pleasure and intimacy with another person. Open and honest communication with your partner before, during and after sex is so important.
It’s okay to experiment (safely) when it comes to sex, but it’s also okay to not like something and it’s okay to tell your partner that you’re not into something. They should always respect you and what you do and don’t want and vice versa. Respect is important for all parties involved.
Do not put pressure on yourself to make your body look a certain way or to do a sex act because you’ve been set a false standard of sex due to porn. And also don’t let anyone else put pressure on you, ever, when it comes to sex.
Do you think porn teaches is unrealistic things about sex?